DAY ONE – TRANSFORMATION SERIES 2019
As we head into the new year, this is a great way to begin. Ever wondered what it takes to be in a continual state of motion, a state of growth and development in all areas of our lives? Well, carry on reading … it is as simple as a state of mind?
Change your mind and the rest will follow…
All change starts with a change of mind. You have to start by changing your thoughts about want you want to change.
Constantly trying to change behaviour will rarely create long-term and lasting change.
In changing the way you think about something you immediately change your perception and consequently the way you feel about it.
“Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything”
– GEORGE BERNARD SHAW
Change has a negative connotation for lots of people. On a deep emotional level, we are creatures of comfort and automatically seek out the things that feel good at the moment. We long for comfort and this usually comes from the things we know; those things that are familiar to us.
Once we can comfortably deal with and “know” all the “unknowns” we can “relax”, because our nervous system and our mind is designed to find and attach a meaning(s) to everything and therefore something new is always a confrontation between that which is and that which will be in your mind.
The unknown is always something that our mind and our nervous system have to “unravel” afresh and this process feels uncomfortable on many levels. When something becomes comfortable you get used to it as you remove all the “unknowns” and your automatic behaviour can take over again. Our nervous system works primarily by conditioning and by repetition we notice and assume patterns that are consistent. This system is really there to serve us in helping us be more efficient and to be able to do more and more, more efficiently.
Your mind is designed to always look for the best way. Through repetition, we learn certain orders and sequences in which things happen and we learn to recognise and respond according to these sequences. Every emotion you experience, for instance, is nothing but the result of a sequence of events and reactions triggered by your unconscious awareness that generates and creates the actual feeling which is nothing but a sensation in your nervous system.
To change anything you must, first of all, become aware of these patterns. You must become aware of what goes on under the surface of your conscious awareness. This is not difficult and everybody can do this. You don’t need to understand everything about the human nervous system to use it. Simply be aware of the fact that there is a part of you that responds and acts “automatically” based on your past experiences and associations.
The challenge is to go from one pattern, one that does not serve you, to one which does. You quite literally have to change your mind in that you have to change the way you perceive yourself and your life. Doing things differently will feel uncomfortable at first, but you can rest assured that the “uncomfortable” will become “comfortable” as you start to form new associations and new patterns of association.
The process of making the “uncomfortable” comfortable or making the “unknown” known is the way we grow as human beings. What you are comfortable with represents your comfort zone which includes all the experiences that you can comfortably deal with. If you don’t expand this “zone” then you simply won’t expand yourself as a person.
The need to grow and become more as a person is a deep emotional need that all humans have. Without growth, you simply won’t be happy. All growth, although it feels uncomfortable in the moment always feels immensely fulfilling in the long-term and it is this feeling that we all crave; the feeling that we call “good”. You can do something that feels comfortable and “good” at the moment by staying with what you know, but true fulfilment comes from pushing beyond your comfort zone and creating a sense of pride in yourself. Growth means change and change involves risk and risk is the process of stepping from the known to the unknown.
The truth is that all of life is constantly in a process of change. Nothing ever stays the same. It is the nature of all of life, including you. Even if you do nothing life will still change.
For you to progress, you have to decide to consciously initiate and create the change. You have to consciously put yourself in the uncomfortable place where you can grow and as you do this you progress. Progress is by choice while change is automatic. To be in control of your life you have to consciously choose to change and to keep changing yourself to become the person you want to be.
All change starts with a change of mind. You have to start by changing your thoughts about want you want to change. In changing the way you think about something you immediately change your perception and consequently the way you feel about it. When you change the way you feel you change your behaviour and that is how you progress.
Constantly trying to change behaviour will rarely create long-term and lasting change.
Change your mind and the rest will follow!
If you don’t change then you simply won’t grow and if you don’t grow you are not really living…
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How many of us start thinking new years resolutions come this time of the year … if not resolutions we set intentions for the year ahead. They usually begin with internal questioning, maybe feelings of melancholy at the end of yet another busy year, maybe feeling a bit low and depressed about a lack of action over the past 12 months, the months just flew by and didn’t quite go as planned … well, friends, that’s life!
Ever said that this is MY year! I’m going to …
- look after myself this year
- spend more time with my friends and family
- have more fun
- earn more money
- lose that stone that’s been hanging around for too many years …
And then found success in all of the above?
Very few … in fact around 5% of us actually do what we have intended to do.
Imagine my joy when I came across this amazing idea …
This is perfect !!
If like me you are soooo over the thought of new years resolutions, that never really come to fruition because we forget about them or set unrealistic expectations or don’t take the process seriously, you’ll love this idea.
Word-of-the-Year has become a game-changer for many. Christine Kane is the CEO and founder of a coaching company called Uplevel You. She says that she wasn’t the first to do it or come up with it. But may have been one of the first to share it.
“I don’t know. I just know it works – not just for me, but for many others like me.” read more here
So I figured if it works for all these amazing people .. it’ll work for me ..
In essence, we choose a word that resonates with us and we make it our word of the year … here’s the thing.
Choosing a word isn’t magic. Results won’t just happen because we pick a word and then sit back waiting for things to happen … quite the opposite. The word to choose is the word that brings energy to our situation and then allow it to guide us as we engage with it, think about it and take action based on it.
We choose the word … one word … but how?
This is how Christine does it …
Just one word. That’s all.
Then, hold that word in your mind throughout the year, and let your word guide you to take action. For instance, let’s say you want to make a resolution to lose 20 pounds, and to change jobs. Rather than say, “I resolve to lose 20 pounds and get a better job,” (which can be somewhat overwhelming) you might sit with this thought for a little while. Write in your journal.
Maybe then you would recognize that you’ve been scared to look for another job because there might not be something out there, and maybe you’ve been overeating to stuff down the fears that come up and the feelings of insecurity.
So, instead of making resolutions – which do little to inspire you – you choose the word “courage.” Courage then becomes what guides you. Each day you focus on that word. When you don’t want to go to the gym, you don’t berate yourself with the threat of your resolution. Instead, you motivate yourself with your word. “Courage.”
You say it aloud to remind yourself. And you go because learning how to not be scared of change is exciting to you. The word then builds on itself. You might decide to take a yoga class even though the skinny yoga girls have always scared you. You might find that you have a little more energy with each new thing you try.
Maybe this energy motivates you to call an old friend in your field and let her know you are looking for another job. Courage becomes the guiding force, not the harsh standard. (And WAY better for you than a pound of bacon and four eggs for breakfast, too!)
So here goes … the idea is to choose a word that resonates with you.
Here is a list of a list of possible words, see if one stands out for you. Just choose one.
Love, Clarity, Freedom, Compassion, Gratefulness, Change, Creativity, Generosity, Courage, Appreciation, Power, Certainty, Growth, Development, Abundance, Longevity, Kindness, Focus, Presence, Health, Wealth, Knowledge, Acceptance, Forgiveness, Hope, Happiness, Fun, Resourceful, Peace, Wisdom, Patience, Trusting, Release, Revive, Grace, Humour, Adventure, Friendship, Laughter, Awareness, Gentleness, Healing, Action, Persuasion, Discipline, Open-Minded, Accepting, Joyful, Exploring, Discovery, Unwrapping, Beauty, Respect, Self-Awareness, Openness, Visionary.
Have you got one?
Then hold it in your mind …
And head on over to the discovery tool that Christine has designed it’s awesome & really useful !! I have downloaded the PDF for you so click the image, or go here.
Let me know what your word of the year is … and HAPPY NEW YEAR !!
I’ll check back and see how you are getting on in a few months.
My word of the year is: THRIVE – because its what I need to do to contribute to the world in a meaningful way. There is a post in this so keep your eyes peeled. (The other two words I was considering were, Happiness and Execute. Both of these will help me thrive and likewise, when I thrive I’m happy because I’ve executed. So chicken and egg for me but I feel the best word for me today is THRIVE)
So where to from here … ??
ACTION STEP #1: SHARE YOUR WORD, with someone, on social media and explain why.
ACTION STEP #2: GET ENCOURAGEMENT, find an accountability buddy, share your word and why and then hold each other accountable.
ACTION STEP #3: POST YOUR WORD, somewhere you’ll see every day. This is your guiding word for the year, see it, believe it, do it.
Good luck !!
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