The Year In ‘Rear View’ #2018

The Year In ‘Rear View’ #2018

4 Lessons I Learned In 2018

I love the play on words ...

It seemed appropriate given that I learn as I live, let me explain.

IMG_1120Rather than using hindsight to review my actions and results it seemed to me that this year has called for a much more proactive approach from me, its been as though I've needed to have one eye focused on the rear view mirror as I've pushed ahead with my vision for my business and how I see my life unfolding.

Being the overachiever I am, this time of the year usually does two things for me. It gives me time to reflect on the successes and lessons of the year and provides an opportunity to refocus my energy into planning the next one.

There were so many lessons this year, it is difficult to choose just 4, so I've picked out 4 that have helped to shape the way I live, how I spend my time, how I treat the lessons and blessings life brings, appreciating those close to me and safeguarding my health because at the end of the day that's why I look after myself.

Lesson #1: Time Doing Things You Love Make The Other Stuff Worth It

The biggest events of the year for me have catapulted my business forwards and at times left me spinning my wheels. I have had moments of pure joy and delight and also total overwhelm and what I call analysis paralysis. With that said I am really excited about what the next year holds. I feel like the last two years of graft have helped to set me up for this coming year. The investment I've made in working with coaches both financially and in time, the resources invested in business development and creating systems to underpin it all plus the hours and hours of creating content and serving my amazing clients have resulted in solid foundations that will move me forwards.

It's not surprising therefore that it feels like this year has gone in a flash.

So where did it all begin?

The closure of my studio in March and the shift of my attention from 121 personal training to running my Ultimate Body Formula Coaching Program, meant a shift in the way I delivered coaching to my clients. I've developed an incredible formula that helps women uplevel their importance on their priority list with some incredible results.

Talking about incredible results ...

I wanted to share a video I created about Marilise's journey with me over the last year, she has done so incredibly well and seen real transformation in many areas of her life. I am super proud of her, as you can probably tell.




Lesson #2: Celebrate The Blessings & The Lessons

In an effort to find more time, I decided to give up teaching Body Pump after 10 years of delivering the program, that was a big step for me but one that was necessary to free up my energy and focus so I could do what I needed to do.

My mission is to help as many ambitious women as I can, put themselves first, to feel and look fantastic and to understand how to maintain their health because it is so simple and everyone deserves to feel confident and beautiful in their skin.

I've realised that people come into our lives for two reasons, that is as a blessing or a lesson. I believe that either we succeed or we learn, failure isn't an option. All we do is pick up and try again right?

I think about these things as the flip side of the same coin ... and try to take the positive from each situation rather than focus on the negative or take things personally ...

I've had clients this year who have done exceptionally well and others who have fallen off the radar and for whatever reason have become totally unresponsive, people subscribe to my newsletter and others unsubscribe, people, appear in my life and others disappear from it for no rhyme or reason. In balance, we all take what we need from those around us to progress and I've come to accept that that is life. More often than not we have no idea who we inspire, so for every person that leaves, it creates an opportunity to engage with someone new, for every door that shuts another opens .. that is the beauty of life in continual motion.

Like a coin being flipped in the air ... we have no idea of the outcome ... whether it will land on heads or tails? All we can control is how we react and respond. Both sides call for celebration. We learn we grow, we evolve we love.

Lesson #3: Health Is Everything

About 8 years ago I had a motorbike accident, I took all the impact of the collision on the left side of my body. I landed on my side and slid across the road, my Yamaha Virago between my knees ... luckily I got up and walked away from the accident, however, a crushing injury on my left knee and hip meant that when I went back to teaching I had to be mindful of an imbalance developing in my body. While I thought I had fixed it 'managing' really came to the fore. I had been heading to my favourite chiropractor every 6 weeks to be manipulated into place, I then went back to teaching, exercising and doing what I do, until I needed to be manipulated again. A continual cycle of pain management and function. This is so so true of the human condition .. we learn how to cope. This was by no means optimal for my performance or my health but I managed it or so I thought.

When I stopped teaching Body Pump, a lot of the repetitive nature of my classes disappeared and as a consequence, the weight training I was doing in the gym started to demand more of my body and the old injury's started to show, I was in agony and very quickly realised that I had to go back to basics with my training and address the imbalance properly and focus on getting stronger before I got back to competing.

So I made the decision not to compete in September and to focus on getting stronger. A decision that was tough and left me feeling frustrated and low about the whole thing, but as I say Health is Everything! and I am now fighting fit and ready to focus on next season.

Lesson #4: Life Is A Tapestry We Weave

My husband celebrated his 50th birthday this year ... yes I know he looks 25! This is a big event in anyone's life and this birthday was no exception. We live in the UK our family lives in South Africa so a family celebration was almost impossible for us, plus he decided he didn't want a party or a big fuss, just to go away and get some sun. OK?

When I was growing up my family made a big deal of birthdays, we celebrated them, in fact, any opportunity to celebrate anything we did. So this was a bit of a weird request, so I thought ok, he wants to go away, let's do that and then and I'll arrange a surprise party on our return. Wags'nTales in Surbiton did a fab job to accommodate us, with delicious food and cake in his favourite flavours! Friends arrived before we got there, no one spilt the beans, he had absolutely no idea. So yes it was a big surprise! It put a smile on his face for days after that. Feeling loved by those closest to you is an absolute gift.  Something that lifts the spirit and helps you fly.

lunch with hubby


Life is a tapestry we weave, you only get out what you put in. In the high moments, we forget about the lows and in the lows its the memories of the highs that pull us out. Its special moments where we connect with each other that brings the magic to our relationships. Being present and engaged is one of the biggest challenges we all face as busy people with a million things going on at once, if we can remember this and act on it there will be lots of beautiful colours woven into the tapestry of our lives, precious time shared and memories made.

Part of my promise to Rod this year is to give him 50 cakes .. one for every year. So far I think I've done at least 10 .. we've got some way to go - lol

So there you go my 4 Biggest Lessons of the year.


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There is never the ‘right time’ …

There is never the ‘right time’ …

Want to make a big change in your life, but keep putting it off?
Maybe you want to transition into a new career …
Or to start looking after yourself better …
Or maybe you’re waiting on making a decision because it could have a long-term impact on another area of your life.
My advice?
There’s never going to be a “right time” to take the leap.

How A Single Word Can Change Your Life

How A Single Word Can Change Your Life

How many of us start thinking new years resolutions come this time of the year ... if not resolutions we set intentions for the year ahead. They usually begin with internal questioning, maybe feelings of melancholy at the end of yet another busy year, maybe feeling a bit low and depressed about a lack of action over the past 12 months, the months just flew by and didn't quite go as planned ... well, friends, that's life!


Ever said that this is MY year! I'm going to ...

  • look after myself this year
  • spend more time with my friends and family
  • have more fun
  • earn more money
  • lose that stone that's been hanging around for too many years ...

And then found success in all of the above?

Very few ... in fact around 5% of us actually do what we have intended to do.

Imagine my joy when I came across this amazing idea ...


This is perfect !!

If like me you are soooo over the thought of new years resolutions, that never really come to fruition because we forget about them or set unrealistic expectations or don't take the process seriously, you'll love this idea.

Word-of-the-Year has become a game-changer for many. Christine Kane is the CEO and founder of a coaching company called Uplevel You. She says that she wasn’t the first to do it or come up with it. But may have been one of the first to share it.

"I don’t know. I just know it works – not just for me, but for many others like me." read more here

So I figured if it works for all these amazing people .. it'll work for me ..

In essence, we choose a word that resonates with us and we make it our word of the year ... here’s the thing.

Choosing a word isn’t magic. Results won't just happen because we pick a word and then sit back waiting for things to happen ... quite the opposite. The word to choose is the word that brings energy to our situation and then allow it to guide us as we engage with it, think about it and take action based on it.

We choose the word ... one word ... but how?

This is how Christine does it ...

Just one word. That’s all.

Then, hold that word in your mind throughout the year, and let your word guide you to take action. For instance, let’s say you want to make a resolution to lose 20 pounds, and to change jobs. Rather than say, “I resolve to lose 20 pounds and get a better job,” (which can be somewhat overwhelming) you might sit with this thought for a little while. Write in your journal.

Maybe then you would recognize that you’ve been scared to look for another job because there might not be something out there, and maybe you’ve been overeating to stuff down the fears that come up and the feelings of insecurity.

So, instead of making resolutions – which do little to inspire you – you choose the word “courage.” Courage then becomes what guides you. Each day you focus on that word. When you don’t want to go to the gym, you don’t berate yourself with the threat of your resolution. Instead, you motivate yourself with your word. “Courage.”

You say it aloud to remind yourself. And you go because learning how to not be scared of change is exciting to you. The word then builds on itself. You might decide to take a yoga class even though the skinny yoga girls have always scared you. You might find that you have a little more energy with each new thing you try.

Maybe this energy motivates you to call an old friend in your field and let her know you are looking for another job. Courage becomes the guiding force, not the harsh standard. (And WAY better for you than a pound of bacon and four eggs for breakfast, too!)


So here goes ... the idea is to choose a word that resonates with you.

Here is a list of a list of possible words, see if one stands out for you. Just choose one.

Love, Clarity, Freedom, Compassion, Gratefulness, Change, Creativity, Generosity, Courage, Appreciation, Power, Certainty, Growth, Development, Abundance, Longevity, Kindness, Focus, Presence, Health, Wealth, Knowledge, Acceptance, Forgiveness, Hope, Happiness, Fun, Resourceful, Peace, Wisdom, Patience, Trusting, Release, Revive, Grace, Humour, Adventure, Friendship, Laughter, Awareness, Gentleness, Healing, Action, Persuasion, Discipline, Open-Minded, Accepting, Joyful, Exploring, Discovery, Unwrapping, Beauty, Respect, Self-Awareness, Openness, Visionary.

Have you got one?

Then hold it in your mind ...

And head on over to the discovery tool that Christine has designed it's awesome & really useful !! I have downloaded the PDF for you so click the image, or go here.


Let me know what your word of the year is ... and HAPPY NEW YEAR !!

I'll check back and see how you are getting on in a few months.

My word of the year is: THRIVE - because its what I need to do to contribute to the world in a meaningful way. There is a post in this so keep your eyes peeled.  (The other two words I was considering were, Happiness and Execute. Both of these will help me thrive and likewise, when I thrive I'm happy because I've executed. So chicken and egg for me but I feel the best word for me today is THRIVE)

So where to from here ... ??

ACTION STEP #1: SHARE YOUR WORD, with someone, on social media and explain why.

ACTION STEP #2: GET ENCOURAGEMENT, find an accountability buddy, share your word and why and then hold each other accountable.

ACTION STEP #3: POST YOUR WORD, somewhere you'll see every day. This is your guiding word for the year, see it, believe it, do it.

Good luck !!



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