Stop waiting for your life to happen! The only difference between you and the people who are getting what they want is that they continue to move and you don’t.
This week I was sitting on the phone with tech support trying to figure out why my transformation series of emails wasn’t sending … how frustrating when all I wanted to do was get my message out and help as many people as possible using a tried and tested, reliable provider … grrrr over and over again … I thought of the time wasted waiting … the things I could have done while I sat there … waiting … not living my life and not reaching those I wanted to. I felt like my effort was in vain and that my life was on hold! erm please hold and we will be with you shortly … its driven me nuts!
Do you feel like your life is on hold? What are you hanging on waiting for?
Are you waiting for a spouse to come along, or for him/her to act better towards you? Are you waiting on the motivation to get your home organised? Are you waiting for a great job to fall into your lap? Are you waiting to win the lottery to plan your retirement? Or for your commitment to your health and fitness to simply kick in?
If the only difference between those of us ‘stuck’ and ‘on-hold’ and the people who are getting what they want is that they keep moving and we don’t … then I’d like to know what their secret is … wouldn’t you?
So today’s word is #ACHIEVE – what do we need to do today to achieve something small? … here are a few ideas.
Focus on the WHO, not the WHAT
If you feel like you’ve been stuck trying to achieve a goal for a while, try reframing it in ‘who am I’ terms instead of ‘what I want’ terms. For example, instead of saying ‘I want to lose 30 lbs’, say ‘I am someone who takes care of herself by keeping my weight around XXX which is a healthy range for my height and age’. Be as specific as possible. Notice that ‘I want to be someone who helps others’ could mean anything from a clerk in your local florist to a heart surgeon. Focus on who you want to be. Then ask yourself what actions would fit with your desire ‘to be’ instead of ‘get’.
Did you know that a full 80% of your problems come from 20% of your life? It’s true! Figure out what that 20% is that’s affecting so much of your life, and start working to make it happier, more efficient, more satisfying. Be honest here and don’t be scared to get rid of things that make you feel unhappy or the things that suck the life out of you. Time to be brutal and take action.
A big mistake I see in some of my clients and I’ve learned how important this is in my own life, is not assigning a true value to their time, energy, money or to the ‘real estate’ (space) of their home or office. Realising that for each thing they say Yes to — from heading to the shops to buy a pair of shoes to watching a movie — they have said No to something else. I’ve learned to always place a value on my time and ask, is this ‘valuable’ enough to me to fill my life with, or shift something else from my schedule for, to spend my money on and to give of my time and my energy?
Don’t know about you but I have routines associated with everything I do, well nearly everything. Getting up early most days to get a couple of hours of work done before I start my day is one of them, a cheat meal once a week, food prep on Sundays … so why not find routines that ensure things get done? While they may sound boring and make life predictable at times, they actually allow space in your day for fun things! The same way you don’t have to think about calories on your cheat meal night, instead of being worried and anxious on Monday morning wondering if you’ll fit in your workout for the day, or find something suitable for your lunch, you’ll feel calm knowing that you always spend a couple of hours on a Sunday prepping your food for the week and get the washing done so you have clean gym kit for your tog bag so you can go straight to the gym after work and not miss it. All organised and ready to roll! Routines take the stress out.
We’ve all heard about deniability from political spin doctors. I’d like to introduce you to the concept of ‘control-ability’ in your daily life. While there are loads of things we can’t control, like roadworks cropping up everywhere, you can’t control the route you take and the time allowed for your journey, we can’t control what happens in politics but we can vote and have our say, we can’t control the weather but we can control our attitude when the heavens open …
Knowing what we can control and exercising that, then letting go of what we can’t, puts us in the driver’s seat of our lives and that my friends is exactly where I want to be.
My attitude, my thoughts, my actions and my words.
Feeling good about yourself will come naturally when you stop waiting and start creating the life you really want to live. Stress and frustration will be reduced as you make choices instead of being pushed around. You’ll experience a higher sense of self-worth, and the life you’ve always wanted will unfold in front of you.
Stop waiting for your life to happen, start living the life you’ve always wanted today!
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Thousands of words pour out of our mouths each day as our thoughts, opinions, judgements and beliefs are freely expressed. Often, however, we are oblivious to the positive or negative effect these words have on ourselves and the people around us.
Speaking comes to most people as naturally as breathing. On many occasions our words are uttered without conscious thought; in fact, we rarely stop and think about what we are saying. Thousands of words pour out of our mouths each day as our thoughts, opinions, judgements and beliefs are freely expressed. Often, however, we are oblivious to the positive or negative effect these words have on ourselves and the people around us.
Words have tremendous power. Words give out energy and a message which creates a reaction in others. Everything you say produces an effect in the world. Whatever you say to someone else will produce some kind of an effect in that person. We are constantly creating something, either positive or negative with our words.
Reaction to our words often returns to us often in a multiplied form. For example, if I speak words of judgement to a person they will judge me back, probably with more intensity as their judgement has the pain or anger caused by my words attached to it Words of kindness and acceptance will generate a warm and appreciative reaction in a person. That person’s response to the words will be stronger because it will have the emotion created by the words attached to it.
The power of words has a ripple effect in our lives and those around us.
Recently I came across the work of Dr Emoto, and his studies on water crystals. He took samples of water, froze them and took photographs of the water crystals. He then wrote words on vials of water taken from the same source. The crystals formed in the vials which had positive words, such as love and gratitude, were beautiful. However the crystals in the vials with negative words such as hate and evil were very different, and the water didn’t even form crystals in some instances. Experiments were done using words from different languages, and also by the scientists having no knowledge of what the words meant. The results were similar. More information can be found at http://www.whatthebleep.com/crystals or by watching the movie ‘What The Bleep Do We Know’.
Although I find the concepts of quantum physics difficult to grasp, the findings of this study on water crystals have had a profound impact on me. The human body is known to be composed of up to ninety per cent water. If words had such a significant impact on water crystals, then what is the impact of positive and negative words to our bodies?
An important key to success in life and relationships is to understand the power of words. A word is a thought eternalized. Our thoughts do have a great effect on us even though they are internal. What we think affects the way we live our life, it affects our emotions, our attitudes and our behaviour. A thought spoken has even more power. It can never be taken back; it is out of our mouth and will have an effect. Our words have even more power than our thoughts because they not only affect ourselves but the people and the world around us.
I’ve been doing some work on my personal high-performance habits and been challenged by the work of Brendon Birchard and his 6 High-Performance Habits, he talks about Generating Energy which is essentially about activity and looking after ourselves. At this time of the year how many of us choose to make healthier choices in our lives. I believe it starts here … with a word … realising how powerful words are is the first step. And then using them to start a ripple effect in our lives is such an exciting thing to do.
Have you found your word of the year yet? If not go here and figure it out. Now that we know the power of words its time to build habits around them that will bring success.
Successful people take control of their words, rather than letting their words control them. They are more conscious of their thoughts and words and the power they unleash.
Successful people understand that they need to speak positively rather than negatively in order to see success.
Successful people are characterised by the words that they speak. They know the importance of speaking words that will build self-esteem and confidence, build relationships and build possibilities. They speak words of affirmation, encouragement, love, acceptance and appreciation.
To see more personal success, the words that we speak need to be in alignment with what we want to see being produced in our life, our vision and our dreams. As we know, our words can determine our destiny. Even more importantly, words can make a positive difference on the people you interact with every day.
Before you speak ask yourself: Is what I am about to say going to uplift the hearer? Will it inspire, motivate, and create forward momentum for them? Will it dissolve fear and create safety and trust?
Will I create a positive or negative ripple effect by speaking out these words?
Let’s be determined to unleash the power of words for a positive change.
How many of us start thinking new years resolutions come this time of the year … if not resolutions we set intentions for the year ahead. They usually begin with internal questioning, maybe feelings of melancholy at the end of yet another busy year, maybe feeling a bit low and depressed about a lack of action over the past 12 months, the months just flew by and didn’t quite go as planned … well, friends, that’s life!
Ever said that this is MY year! I’m going to …
look after myself this year
spend more time with my friends and family
have more fun
earn more money
lose that stone that’s been hanging around for too many years …
And then found success in all of the above?
Very few … in fact around 5% of us actually do what we have intended to do.
Imagine my joy when I came across this amazing idea …
This is perfect !!
If like me you are soooo over the thought of new years resolutions, that never really come to fruition because we forget about them or set unrealistic expectations or don’t take the process seriously, you’ll love this idea.
Word-of-the-Year has become a game-changer for many. Christine Kane is the CEO and founder of a coaching company called Uplevel You. She says that she wasn’t the first to do it or come up with it. But may have been one of the first to share it.
“I don’t know. I just know it works – not just for me, but for many others like me.” read more here
So I figured if it works for all these amazing people .. it’ll work for me ..
In essence, we choose a word that resonates with us and we make it our word of the year … here’s the thing.
Choosing a word isn’t magic. Results won’t just happen because we pick a word and then sit back waiting for things to happen … quite the opposite. The word to choose is the word that brings energy to our situation and then allow it to guide us as we engage with it, think about it and take action based on it.
We choose the word … one word … but how?
This is how Christine does it …
Just one word. That’s all.
Then, hold that word in your mind throughout the year, and let your word guide you to take action. For instance, let’s say you want to make a resolution to lose 20 pounds, and to change jobs. Rather than say, “I resolve to lose 20 pounds and get a better job,” (which can be somewhat overwhelming) you might sit with this thought for a little while. Write in your journal.
Maybe then you would recognize that you’ve been scared to look for another job because there might not be something out there, and maybe you’ve been overeating to stuff down the fears that come up and the feelings of insecurity.
So, instead of making resolutions – which do little to inspire you – you choose the word “courage.” Courage then becomes what guides you. Each day you focus on that word. When you don’t want to go to the gym, you don’t berate yourself with the threat of your resolution. Instead, you motivate yourself with your word. “Courage.”
You say it aloud to remind yourself. And you go because learning how to not be scared of change is exciting to you. The word then builds on itself. You might decide to take a yoga class even though the skinny yoga girls have always scared you. You might find that you have a little more energy with each new thing you try.
Maybe this energy motivates you to call an old friend in your field and let her know you are looking for another job. Courage becomes the guiding force, not the harsh standard. (And WAY better for you than a pound of bacon and four eggs for breakfast, too!)
So here goes … the idea is to choose a word that resonates with you.
Here is a list of a list of possible words, see if one stands out for you. Just choose one.
And head on over to the discovery tool that Christine has designed it’s awesome & really useful !! I have downloaded the PDF for you so click the image, or go here.
Let me know what your word of the year is … and HAPPY NEW YEAR !!
I’ll check back and see how you are getting on in a few months.
My word of the year is: THRIVE – because its what I need to do to contribute to the world in a meaningful way. There is a post in this so keep your eyes peeled. (The other two words I was considering were, Happiness and Execute. Both of these will help me thrive and likewise, when I thrive I’m happy because I’ve executed. So chicken and egg for me but I feel the best word for me today is THRIVE)
So where to from here … ??
ACTION STEP #1: SHARE YOUR WORD, with someone, on social media and explain why.
ACTION STEP #2: GET ENCOURAGEMENT, find an accountability buddy, share your word and why and then hold each other accountable.
ACTION STEP #3: POST YOUR WORD, somewhere you’ll see every day. This is your guiding word for the year, see it, believe it, do it.
Good luck !!
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Ever look back on your life and wonder how different things would have been had you made the changes needed to get results sooner?
It was the beginning of January 2006 and I got a call from my mum in South Africa,
"Granny was going into hospital for a routine ECG and she's slipped and fallen and broken her femur, please will you call her to catch up, you know how much she misses you." You see I was born on her 45th birthday so we shared a special bond and had more in common than I realised growing up. So I called, "Yes, Colette, it's just a routine op, they have to put pins in my leg, I'll be out soon. I'll be glad to have this done so I can keep up with my fancy man" We laughed. Her infectious sense of humour always made me giggle.
"Ok, gran well I wish you a speedy recovery, hope it all goes well, I'll send you a little something to keep you busy while you are in the hospital, love you, bye." I got off the phone and sent her a bedside garden that she could enjoy while she recovered with a wild rose, she loves roses I thought. We chatted again once the garden had arrived and she promised me she would plant the garden as soon as she was out and about. "Won't be long and these little babies will be planted and putting down proper roots, thank you for thinking of me, bye, love you."
A few days after the operation she was up and mobile and having physio, she was on the mend! Almost ready to go home which was fantastic news until I received another call from my mum.
It was THAT call from my mum ... to say that granny had passed.
It was a moment for me that stopped time...
She had developed an aneurysm and she had gone. Her voice cracked and there was silence on the phone. I could feel her pain as she cried, all I wanted to do was put my arms around her and weep with her, to say goodbye. Even writing this story has been emotional. I am sitting here with my eyes filled with tears, it was a such a tragedy and something that should never have happened. My granny was gone. A massive void in our lives created and there was nothing that could be done to bring her back.
She was the person that always called to wish me a happy birthday at a ridiculously early hour of the day, up with the sparrows again I would say ... she would sing happy birthday, I would laugh and we would catch up on stories of birds, bees and crocodile trees. I loved her.
She had overcome so much in her life, single mum to 3 children, she worked hard and still found time to see her family. She always told me how important it was in life to smell the roses, something I do regularly, can't walk past a rose without stopping. She surrounded herself with rose bushes and spent hours tending to her garden, she was a busy bee and never stopped for one minute.
She was a strong, driven woman who knew what it meant to take care of things. She had travelled and explored the world, was sociable and would chat with anyone, she loved waffles and making jam. I will never forget her and the lessons she taught me growing up.
What does this have to do with going all in?
Well, it's in moments like I have described above that we are given a gift, that's a gift of reflection as we look at our own future, it is almost like looking into a mirror where we see our own lives and we are offered an opportunity to assess where we are at in life and make changes and to refocus our efforts if needed.
So while reflecting on the sad events that unfolded for us that year, for me, choosing to go all in is about life, living to the full and enjoying precious moments with friends and family, it's about success in business and finding a balance so I don't spend every waking moment working but allow myself time to feel happy and to feel fulfilled. To leave this planet without regret, knowing I have done all I can to be the best I can be.
I have no doubt that my granny had a tough but amazing life, fulfilled on many levels. She really knew what it meant to follow her heart. For me, it's about putting aside the past, stepping into my passion and doing what I need to achieve my objectives NOW so that in 20 years from now I know I've done all I can so I won't be feeling like I've missed out on anything.
Instead of a lack of health, lack of connection and lack of success in every area of my life... I'll be cherishing the memories I've created doing the things I love with friends and family, thinking wow that was a good life!
At the rate your life is going now do you think you'll look back and think wow that was a great life? Are you all in?
100% invested in building the lifestyle of your dreams and actually living it? Creating the outcomes you desire? Living a strong, fit life that enables you to enjoy the things you choose to do.
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