I am determined to make this year an exciting, productive year where I do everything with a purpose and that is to #thrive … yes, my word of the year. Have you chosen yours? If not yet, go back here and choose your word … and then commit yourself to do everything this year to achieve it.
Over the last week, I have been sharing my Transformation Series for 2019. A series of blogs and audio files where we have discovered the following things.
I started off by sharing my ideas for choosing your word of the year – in the spirit of this, I chose three words that sum up the series .. #dream #believe #achieve and over the series I have taken you through a thought process designed to help you make the most of this formative week of 2019.
1: DAY ONE #dream Change your mind and the rest will follow… As we head into the new year, this is a great way to begin. Ever wondered what it takes to be in a continual state of motion, a state of growth and development in all areas of our lives? Well, carry on reading … it is as simple as a state of mind?
3: DAY THREE #believe The Ripple Effect… Harness The Power Of Words In Your Life Thousands of words pour out of our mouths each day as our thoughts, opinions, judgements and beliefs are freely expressed. Often, however, we are oblivious to the positive or negative effect these words have on ourselves and the people around us.
6: DAY SIX #dream #believe #achieve Hold on to your dreams … How many times have you abandoned an idea, project, program or dream because someone made a disparaging remark or rolled their eyes when you told them about it?
7: And today, DAY SEVEN #thrive
At this stage I wanted to encourage you to set your challenge and intention for the year, to dream a clear dream of where you want to be, to put everything in place so you are in the right frame of mind to believe you can do it and then to head out and start achieving the smallest of steps, taking these steps no matter how small builds momentum and gets you moving fast.
All of this action happens when you realise that your life won’t change until and unless you assume responsibility for it and actually do something to change it. Sounds obvious, doesn’t it. We all know that the grass is only green where you water it, so with this in mind taking small steps, lead to small wins, when we celebrate small wins we build momentum, when we do things that make us feel uncomfortable we build a belief in ourselves that we can achieve these things even when its tough and so we grow and move forward, therefore living in a continual state of motion.
The amazing thing is that exercise, or any physical exertion that forces us to step up, teaches us how tenacious we are, how hard we can push and despite struggling to keep up or to finish the set, we do, we find a way and no matter how the workout goes we have actually got up and done something positive for ourselves and that feels good! So if you are struggling to take action, go do something physical, then come back and do that thing that is stopping you in your tracks harnessing your energy boost and endorphin rush, brought on by physical activity. #winwin
One of the biggest challenges that we all face is taking ultimate responsibility for where we are in life. Learning to #thrive despite feeling that our lives are just spiralling out of control. Sometimes we all feel like the events and circumstances of our lives have led us along a path that we feel we have no control over, that it’s got to be down to someone else, the circumstances we are in, the weather, late because of the trains … etc … these ‘things are responsible’ for ‘our reality’ at this moment in time. Is this true? Or is it down to us not taking charge and steering the ship one little click at a time… I think the latter.
The truth is that your life will not change until and unless you assume full responsibility for it. Responsibility, or your ability to respond, is not a way of accepting some form of blame as most people think, but rather a way of accepting your ability to respond to any situation. It is absolutely critical to realise and accept that it is never the actual events of your life but only your responses to these events that will shape and create it. You are never the creature of circumstances and you have the ultimate ability to consciously decide what things mean and how to respond to it.
You are the only one that can and the only one that will take you where you want to go in your life.
Responsibility is not some skill you need to go and find outside of yourself but it is something you already possess. All you need to do is to assume this power that calls on you to stop blaming anything and everything other than yourself.
Most of us have been conditioned to blame someone else for the parts of our lives that don’t work. When you take full responsibility for your life you put yourself back in charge; you get back in behind the wheel of your life and now you have the ability to control and direct your life the way you choose to. Ultimately it is not the conditions of your life but rather the decisions about what things mean and what you are going to do about it that will create the reality of your life.
When you are fully responsible you recognise that you are the creator of your life.
At some level you were responsible. If not by your conscious actions, then by the meanings and emotions you attached to the events and experiences. Only when you accept responsibility for creating everything in your life can you start to un-create and re-create it the way you truly want.
If you keep blaming someone or something else you will remain stuck because you will always rely on something or someone else to be responsible for the way you feel and ultimately someone else will be responsible for the state of your life.
You have to consciously unfold your arms, get out of the back seat and get back behind the wheel and start directing your life towards where you want it to go, instead of just going with the flow.
See, there are only two real choices in life, the one conscious and the other unconscious: you can either choose to be directed by the events and circumstances of life and let the river of life take you wherever it’s going or you can have both your hands on the steering wheel and decide that you are in full control. You get to decide where you go. Although you can’t control all the events of your life, you can always decide what the events mean to you and how you are going to respond. Whenever anything happens to you, you have an opportunity to respond to it in order to create the outcome. Most people have fallen into the cultural hypnosis that just passes the responsibility on to someone else. This is why their lives feel out of control, well that’s because it is. They have not yet taken responsibility.
You create your world.
When you assume your responsibility you are in charge and this is an internal shift in your thinking and behaviour. Your psychology is not just a big part of your life but it is “everything.” Winning and losing in life is an internal game. By learning to control and direct your mind you get to choose what things mean and therefore you get to choose your response, also known as your responsibility. No one can ever give you responsibility. It is an internal process and a switch that only you can turn on or off.
Being fully responsible doesn’t mean you live in blame and self-pity. It means that you live life from a place of power where you know that on some level you are fully responsible for what happened and you will be responsible for everything that is to come.
Be careful how you use your past experiences. With responsibility comes a new emotional territory that has the power to reinvent your past. Using your past as a place to learn from and a place to pull pleasure from, right, wrong or indifferent, there is a gift in there somewhere. You just need to find it. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood, you have the ability (and response-ability) to find an empowering meaning in whatever life gives you.
Responsibility means that you are in charge. You call the shots. Nobody and nothing is in control and to blame other than you. This is how you turn problems into opportunities and how an ordinary life becomes extraordinary.
Helen Keller, who was both blind and deaf, said that :
“Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.”
What is it going to be for you?
You can either let the environment steer your life or you can get behind the wheel and take responsibility for every aspect of it.
Life is one amazing adventure, but only if you perceive it as that. By being responsible you can take yourself anywhere you want to go because you are the only one who gets to steer your ship and direct the course. You can’t control the wind but you can most certainly direct your sails.
In saying all of this, are you set up for the next leg of your journey? Do you know your destination and the route you are going to take? Are you ready to RUN …
The best advice I can give anyone wanting to change things is just to start.
Do something small today, even if it makes you feel uncomfortable – by doing so – you win! This builds incredible momentum and you will start moving towards your goals super fast.
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Everyone who is successful in life asks for help … none of us ‘knows it all’ … your challenges are not unique, there is always someone who has walked your path if not one very similar, there is no shame in acknowledging where the leaks in the ship are and plugging the gaps …
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How many times have you abandoned an idea, project, program or dream because someone made a disparaging remark or rolled their eyes when you told them about it?
Perhaps you have tried something in the past and failed and therefore have a need to prove you can get it right but those around you don’t believe you can… I see this often with weight loss goals and programs and individuals that haven’t quite achieved their objectives. They give up because it gets too hard, life gets in the way, they get injured, they get sick, they go on holiday, they would rather eat pizza every night than clean up their nutrition. It becomes clear that they haven’t made the lifestyle changes needed to be successful and rather than get up and try again and keep trying taking small steps forwards, they walk away …
The same is true for anything in life we feel is not worth fighting for at the time. Grim fact of life but true …
In my world, health is everything !! Without health life becomes limited … I hate feeling limited or constrained … so for me … this is worth fighting for! and I have done and continue to do what is necessary to stay healthy and well. To achieve this I have worked hard to instil habits into my life that help me move forward. I have a firm belief system and won’t be dissuaded from that commitment. This impacts everything. If I had listened to the people who told me I looked ‘ok’ when I was going through my transformation (carrying over 2.5 stone more weight than I should, looking at least 10 years older and feeling like I was ageing before my time, burned out and unhappy), I would have settled for mediocre … that wasn’t good enough for me then and its not good enough for me now. I have a need to do my best and be the best I can be …
So many of my clients feel the same which is why we work together and achieve amazing things together!
Never Relinquish Your Dreams
I’ve never understood why we sometimes allow others to dictate what is good, right or possible. We allow them to steal our dreams. No one can put you down, stomp on your dream, or kill an idea of yours unless you allow them to.
Let’s agree today not to allow that to happen, but rather to get clear on what our dreams are and start working towards them.
A small step every day in the right direction will get you there in no time.
I like to set myself 90-day goals and find it very useful to break them down into smaller tasks to achieve them.
The 5-minute daydream exercise in the WOMAN IN MOTION cheat sheet will help you do this. From there I plan my steps and block out the time to do the work. It all starts here. Once I have a plan I master my schedule and for me, winning my mornings are key to getting the work done, freeing up my time for fun stuff and taking steps towards my dreams.
Sounds too good to be true? Well, it’s not and you can find out more in the download. Go get the cheat sheet now if you haven’t done so already.
How 9 famous people chose to pursue their dreams
I love reading about success and I am always inspired by these stories … imagine if they quit or decided not to pursue their dreams. The world would have missed out on this …
The movie Star Wars was rejected by every movie studio in Hollywood before 20th Century Fox finally produced it. It went on to be one of the largest-grossing movies in film history.
As a child, Sylvester Stallone was frequently beaten by his father and told he had no brains. He grew up an unhappy loner. He floated in and out of schools. An advisor at Drexel University told him that based on his aptitude tests he should pursue a career as an elevator repair person. It’s not a bad profession but it’s certainly not where “Rocky” ended up!
Einstein was criticized for not wearing socks or cutting his hair. He didn’t speak until he was four and didn’t read until he was seven. One observer noted, “He could be mentally retarded”.
An expert said of Vince Lombardi: “He possesses minimal football knowledge. Lacks motivation. . .
Beethoven handled the violin awkwardly and preferred playing his own compositions instead of improving his technique. His teacher proclaimed him hopeless as a composer.
Walt Disney was fired from his job as a newspaper editor for lack of ideas. He also went bankrupt several times before he created Disneyland.
Henry Ford failed and went broke 5 times before he finally succeeded.
Louisa May Alcott, the author of Little Women, was encouraged to find work as a servant or seamstress. She would certainly never be a writer.
In 1944, the director of the Blue Book Modeling Agency told modelling hopeful Norma Jean Baker (Marilyn Monroe), “You’d better learn secretarial work, or else get married.”
It Takes Courage
It takes courage to pursue your dreams, to chase them even when no one else can see your vision.
In my experience when you share these with people and talk about your journey and what you are learning along the way, more people will want to hear about it than not.
It really doesn’t matter if anyone supports what you want to do. The important thing is for YOU to believe. For YOU to ignore the people who say you can’t do it – and DO IT ANYWAY!
It takes courage. It takes persistence. It takes believing in the “voice inside” when no one else does. Ideas, dreams and visions are planted within you because you have the ability to make them happen. You’ll learn, grow, scramble, fail, and get back up again! The important thing is to simply never give up. The people I mentioned above never gave up and they made great things happen! So can you!
So what are your ideas? Your thoughts? Your dreams? Your plans?
Do you have a clear picture of where you want to be? What it looks like and how it feels to have achieved it?
Do the 5 Minute Day Dream exercise in the WOMAN IN MOTION cheat sheet and write your dream down. The next steps in the cheat sheet will get you mobilised to achieve them …
Stop waiting for your life to happen! The only difference between you and the people who are getting what they want is that they continue to move and you don’t.
This week I was sitting on the phone with tech support trying to figure out why my transformation series of emails wasn’t sending … how frustrating when all I wanted to do was get my message out and help as many people as possible using a tried and tested, reliable provider … grrrr over and over again … I thought of the time wasted waiting … the things I could have done while I sat there … waiting … not living my life and not reaching those I wanted to. I felt like my effort was in vain and that my life was on hold! erm please hold and we will be with you shortly … its driven me nuts!
Do you feel like your life is on hold? What are you hanging on waiting for?
Are you waiting for a spouse to come along, or for him/her to act better towards you? Are you waiting on the motivation to get your home organised? Are you waiting for a great job to fall into your lap? Are you waiting to win the lottery to plan your retirement? Or for your commitment to your health and fitness to simply kick in?
If the only difference between those of us ‘stuck’ and ‘on-hold’ and the people who are getting what they want is that they keep moving and we don’t … then I’d like to know what their secret is … wouldn’t you?
So today’s word is #ACHIEVE – what do we need to do today to achieve something small? … here are a few ideas.
Focus on the WHO, not the WHAT
If you feel like you’ve been stuck trying to achieve a goal for a while, try reframing it in ‘who am I’ terms instead of ‘what I want’ terms. For example, instead of saying ‘I want to lose 30 lbs’, say ‘I am someone who takes care of herself by keeping my weight around XXX which is a healthy range for my height and age’. Be as specific as possible. Notice that ‘I want to be someone who helps others’ could mean anything from a clerk in your local florist to a heart surgeon. Focus on who you want to be. Then ask yourself what actions would fit with your desire ‘to be’ instead of ‘get’.
Did you know that a full 80% of your problems come from 20% of your life? It’s true! Figure out what that 20% is that’s affecting so much of your life, and start working to make it happier, more efficient, more satisfying. Be honest here and don’t be scared to get rid of things that make you feel unhappy or the things that suck the life out of you. Time to be brutal and take action.
A big mistake I see in some of my clients and I’ve learned how important this is in my own life, is not assigning a true value to their time, energy, money or to the ‘real estate’ (space) of their home or office. Realising that for each thing they say Yes to — from heading to the shops to buy a pair of shoes to watching a movie — they have said No to something else. I’ve learned to always place a value on my time and ask, is this ‘valuable’ enough to me to fill my life with, or shift something else from my schedule for, to spend my money on and to give of my time and my energy?
Don’t know about you but I have routines associated with everything I do, well nearly everything. Getting up early most days to get a couple of hours of work done before I start my day is one of them, a cheat meal once a week, food prep on Sundays … so why not find routines that ensure things get done? While they may sound boring and make life predictable at times, they actually allow space in your day for fun things! The same way you don’t have to think about calories on your cheat meal night, instead of being worried and anxious on Monday morning wondering if you’ll fit in your workout for the day, or find something suitable for your lunch, you’ll feel calm knowing that you always spend a couple of hours on a Sunday prepping your food for the week and get the washing done so you have clean gym kit for your tog bag so you can go straight to the gym after work and not miss it. All organised and ready to roll! Routines take the stress out.
We’ve all heard about deniability from political spin doctors. I’d like to introduce you to the concept of ‘control-ability’ in your daily life. While there are loads of things we can’t control, like roadworks cropping up everywhere, you can’t control the route you take and the time allowed for your journey, we can’t control what happens in politics but we can vote and have our say, we can’t control the weather but we can control our attitude when the heavens open …
Knowing what we can control and exercising that, then letting go of what we can’t, puts us in the driver’s seat of our lives and that my friends is exactly where I want to be.
My attitude, my thoughts, my actions and my words.
Feeling good about yourself will come naturally when you stop waiting and start creating the life you really want to live. Stress and frustration will be reduced as you make choices instead of being pushed around. You’ll experience a higher sense of self-worth, and the life you’ve always wanted will unfold in front of you.
Stop waiting for your life to happen, start living the life you’ve always wanted today!
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If you wait until you see it, to believe it, you may have a very long wait. If you opt to believe it right now, your life will start to fall into place – and you’ll feel a lot happier too.
Generally, we pick up on the things that resonate with our beliefs and our view of the world. This is why, when we’re feeling bad, bad things rain down on us relentlessly.
There are the real, major issues that we have to contend with and then there are the generalisations that we have learned to draw from them, like ‘Life is hard’ ‘It always seems to happen to me’ …
It isn’t in any way our fault, of course. It’s true that bad things happen to happy people too.
Happy people are not necessarily fortunate people in the sense of everything in their life being hunky-dory. How many people do you know who have good relationships, good health, financial security and are still not content, bored or only half-alive?
Happy people are the people who have learned to modify their mood, manage their emotions and choose their reactions. Language, which we all have, is the sole tool that is needed to do so.
Why is it that we end up believing what other people tell us when they tell us something often, or convincingly enough. How many times have we found ourselves believing some daft, but effective, advertising slogan, despite our better judgment? How many times have we reviled ourselves for being lazy, or stupid or worthless, even when we know that is not really the case, because that’s what we’ve been told repeatedly?
If you’ll see it when you believe it, then the first thing to do is choose beliefs that serve you. We can do that because we only have to tell ourselves a thing often enough and we believe it. Unless, of course, your real mantra is: ‘Well, I’ll try it, but I know it won’t work for me.’ In which case it won’t – because you’ll get what you’ve affirmed.
But we can choose an affirmation that allows our spirit to soar. We can start from wherever we are with whatever words seem most appropriate. Purely as an example, you could choose to affirm something like ‘I now give myself permission to celebrate my strength, my uniqueness and my precious humanity.’
Say it once and nothing will happen. Say it several times each day, over a period of weeks and old limiting beliefs will start to lose their hold.
Or you could do it the way Sandy Forster advocates in ‘How To Be Wildly Wealthy Fast’. Instead of just saying your affirmation, you go through it, putting the stress on the first word first time around, the second word second time around and so on until you reach the last word.
An affirmation of 15 words, like the one above, will probably take 2 or 3 minutes to work through. By the time you’ve finished, it will have interrupted any habitual negative loop and lifted your spirits.
Do that a few times a day, when negative thoughts kick in and it won’t be that many days before you start to feel different. And when you start to believe different things, you’ll start to see different things.
Yes, it’s ridiculously simple. Often what stops us achieving something we truly want is not the enormity or the complexity of the thing. It may just be a small, but crucial bit of information we lack, without which nothing seems to make sense.
The question is: are you prepared to give it a go?
Find out what the ladies on my Ultimate Body Formula Program do to achieve what seems impossible at first…
If you are feeling ready to give it a go and believe that this is your year, to look after yourself and get your body, mindset and health on track, then DOWNLOAD MY WOMAN IN MOTION CHEAT SHEET and get in touch with me.
Thousands of words pour out of our mouths each day as our thoughts, opinions, judgements and beliefs are freely expressed. Often, however, we are oblivious to the positive or negative effect these words have on ourselves and the people around us.
Speaking comes to most people as naturally as breathing. On many occasions our words are uttered without conscious thought; in fact, we rarely stop and think about what we are saying. Thousands of words pour out of our mouths each day as our thoughts, opinions, judgements and beliefs are freely expressed. Often, however, we are oblivious to the positive or negative effect these words have on ourselves and the people around us.
Words have tremendous power. Words give out energy and a message which creates a reaction in others. Everything you say produces an effect in the world. Whatever you say to someone else will produce some kind of an effect in that person. We are constantly creating something, either positive or negative with our words.
Reaction to our words often returns to us often in a multiplied form. For example, if I speak words of judgement to a person they will judge me back, probably with more intensity as their judgement has the pain or anger caused by my words attached to it Words of kindness and acceptance will generate a warm and appreciative reaction in a person. That person’s response to the words will be stronger because it will have the emotion created by the words attached to it.
The power of words has a ripple effect in our lives and those around us.
Recently I came across the work of Dr Emoto, and his studies on water crystals. He took samples of water, froze them and took photographs of the water crystals. He then wrote words on vials of water taken from the same source. The crystals formed in the vials which had positive words, such as love and gratitude, were beautiful. However the crystals in the vials with negative words such as hate and evil were very different, and the water didn’t even form crystals in some instances. Experiments were done using words from different languages, and also by the scientists having no knowledge of what the words meant. The results were similar. More information can be found at http://www.whatthebleep.com/crystals or by watching the movie ‘What The Bleep Do We Know’.
Although I find the concepts of quantum physics difficult to grasp, the findings of this study on water crystals have had a profound impact on me. The human body is known to be composed of up to ninety per cent water. If words had such a significant impact on water crystals, then what is the impact of positive and negative words to our bodies?
An important key to success in life and relationships is to understand the power of words. A word is a thought eternalized. Our thoughts do have a great effect on us even though they are internal. What we think affects the way we live our life, it affects our emotions, our attitudes and our behaviour. A thought spoken has even more power. It can never be taken back; it is out of our mouth and will have an effect. Our words have even more power than our thoughts because they not only affect ourselves but the people and the world around us.
I’ve been doing some work on my personal high-performance habits and been challenged by the work of Brendon Birchard and his 6 High-Performance Habits, he talks about Generating Energy which is essentially about activity and looking after ourselves. At this time of the year how many of us choose to make healthier choices in our lives. I believe it starts here … with a word … realising how powerful words are is the first step. And then using them to start a ripple effect in our lives is such an exciting thing to do.
Have you found your word of the year yet? If not go here and figure it out. Now that we know the power of words its time to build habits around them that will bring success.
Successful people take control of their words, rather than letting their words control them. They are more conscious of their thoughts and words and the power they unleash.
Successful people understand that they need to speak positively rather than negatively in order to see success.
Successful people are characterised by the words that they speak. They know the importance of speaking words that will build self-esteem and confidence, build relationships and build possibilities. They speak words of affirmation, encouragement, love, acceptance and appreciation.
To see more personal success, the words that we speak need to be in alignment with what we want to see being produced in our life, our vision and our dreams. As we know, our words can determine our destiny. Even more importantly, words can make a positive difference on the people you interact with every day.
Before you speak ask yourself: Is what I am about to say going to uplift the hearer? Will it inspire, motivate, and create forward momentum for them? Will it dissolve fear and create safety and trust?
Will I create a positive or negative ripple effect by speaking out these words?
Let’s be determined to unleash the power of words for a positive change.
The seemingly insignificant changes in your life, that over time, change the whole direction and end destination of it.
“It is never too late to become what you might have been.” – GEORGE ELIOT
We all reach certain points in our lives, a crossroads where our lives reach a certain threshold of pain that we are no longer willing to settle for. This threshold is very different for every person.
If you are unhappy with anything in your life and recognise it, then see this moment as a massive call to action; a unique opportunity to respond to that desire from deep within the “real” you that wants to experience so much more of life.
This can be very challenging because as we have this urge to improve our lives but don’t have an effective strategy to achieve it. So we enter the familiar territory and take the next logical step and work on the effects instead of the cause.
We stop eating and exercise like crazy because we want to lose weight, rather than understand why we are overweight in the first place, we then convince ourselves that this will help and make us happier hoping that our willpower will carry us through … rather than figuring out why we want to lose it … and using that as the catalyst for longlasting change.
Here is a simple thought process that helps to focus my mind whenever I feel like my wheels are spinning.
For my life to get better I have to get better.
For things to change I have to change.
I am mine. This is my life and I am the creator of my destiny.
We can change any and everything in our lives by changing ourselves.
This puts you in the driving seat of your life and makes your life your responsibility.
It eliminates fear and apprehension because we know that no matter what life gives us we can always get to the next level and take the next step by simply making the internal shift in our own mindset.
We can stop looking for events, people and circumstances to blame. We only need to look inside. No matter how influential we are we cannot control the circumstances and events of our lives.
There are only three things that we have absolute and total control over and together they allow us to experience life. Our thoughts, our actions and our words are always under our conscious control.
They are MY thoughts, they are MY actions and they are MY words AND they create MY world every minute of every day.
This is incredibly liberating. Whenever I want more, to experience more or change anything, I need only look inwards and work on myself.
The hardest work you will ever do is the work you do on yourself. – Jim Rohn
See, how we can run around and work incredibly hard at trying to influence and change circumstances, but that will only leave us feeling exhausted and reluctant to try again. It ís much easier to change yourself and your perception of yourself and your life remembering that nothing has any meaning except for the meaning you give it.
Changing external events have very little impact on your life in the long-term. Small changes in you; in your perceptions and mindset might seem insignificant at first, but because the change is in you it effects all of your thoughts, all of your actions and all of your words.
This seemingly insignificant change, over time, will change the whole direction and end destination of your life giving us a perfect opportunity to rewrite the blueprint of our lives.
If the captain of a ship changes direction just one degree the end destination might be a different continent altogether, it may be unnoticeable over a short period of time, but over greater distances, the small change becomes very significant.
How often do we see people trying to change the big things; they constantly try changing any and everything in their lives, but then fail to maintain the change. Instead, focus on making small consistent changes in yourself, in your own character you can create some incredible lasting results.
All change starts and ends with you.
If you are going to invest the time and effort in improving your life, then invest it in changing yourself. Invest your time and effort in improving “you” and let go of the superficial urges to control events and circumstances.
Your whole perception and experience of life comes from within you and who you are.
Change yourself, change your outlook and watch the world improve and change before your very eyes.